the callus

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been reading this beautiful book called “Redeeming Love” by Francine Rivers (if you haven’t read it, PLEASE do yourself a favour and buy yourself a copy because it will bless you insanely). It’s basically the story of Hosea and Gomer from the Bible, and it is a story that truly shows God’s unending, unrelenting and undying grace and love for us, no matter what we have done to not deserve it. And although I wished that I identified more with the “hero” of the story, Michael Hosea, I found myself identifying with Angel – the broken and hurting prostitute who has been so flooded with emotions through her life that she’s developed a callus around her heart to protect herself from hurt.

“Chloe… What do you mean by ‘callus’?”

Well, when guitarists and bassists play their instruments for a while, the skin on the tips of their fingers develop a tough shell – in this same way, when we feel too much we often create barriers around our hearts so that we don’t fall victim to hurt or emotional pain.

When it comes to emotions, I’d experienced so many of them that I developed a sort-of immunity to them, if that makes sense. I felt like I could go through anything (emotionally, of course) and not feel a thing. My heart had grown a callus around it, and I wanted nothing more than to protect it – even if it meant that I was hurting others.

But God has a different plan for our hearts – Yes, it is so important to guard your heart as much as you can (Proverbs 4:23 tells us that we need to look after our hearts), but when God comes knocking, He wants us to be vulnerable, available, and ready for Him to move, to show us new things, and to place needs and people on our hearts. He wants to softly break through the callus so He can speak to you in all areas of your heart!

“Trust in the Lord with all your HEART and lean not on your own understanding…” – Proverbs 3:5.

Yes, this is a bit of a tough lesson to learn. Even I struggle sometimes with letting God into every part of my heart (even the secret places where I feel shame or inadequacy). But in order for Him to “break your heart for what breaks His”, God needs access to your whole heart. He cares about you too much to hurt you, so let Him in. Allow for Him to work within your heart.

From what I’ve learned from this book, God does not want to judge or ridicule you based on your past – He wants you to know that despite the darkness in your heart, you can do beautiful things for His kingdom. Remove the callus – Here are three steps you can take to let God into your heart fully:


How To: Remove The Callus

  • Read His Word

How can you know God’s promises and thoughts towards you if you’re not reading them? The Bible is God’s love letter to us, it’s a portion of His heart written down on paper. Use this to your advantage, because there is so much love and wisdom to be found in the Bible. Take Psalm 37:4 for example – He loves and values you so much!

  • Enter His Presence

Make sure you’re spending good, quality alone time with God – it is in the quietest moments that I often have revelations and incredible conversations with God. Become familiar with the Father and He will share His heart with you – He wants what is best for you!

  • Make Yourself Available

God wants to open your eyes to see what needs to be done – He wants to give you your mandate, and He wants your heart to be filled with passion and willingness to serve how you can. Are you making yourself available to His will? Because He wants to use you to do incredible things!


Don’t let the callus get between you and God – He wants full access to your heart, so trust Him with it. He is a gentle and loving Father, and He wants to protect you. Answer when He knocks; Peel off the callus. It may hurt to take down the barriers, but will be ever so rewarding when you let God into your heart fully.

Love Chloe.

Xx